QUESTION
SexWithSophie.com member Emily asks: How do you navigate sex when you're chronically ill with a condition that greatly limits your energy and recovery?
ANSWER
The video gives tips and tricks for anyone suffering from a chronic illness, but here is some of the most helpful advice if you suffer from low energy and prolonged recovery like Emily:
• Communicate your anxieties with your partner
• Incorporate more intimacy without the expectation of sex
• Strengthen your pelvic floor
• Track your symptoms and emotions
• Schedule sex, which sounds very un-sexy, but can be fun
• Plan to take meds, soak in a warm bath, and prep beforehand
• Save your energy by delegating as much as possible
• Find a knowledgeable LMFT, sex therapist, or sexologist
Of course, watch the video for more! I researched a ton of great information on adjustments you can make if you have a specific condition like arthritis, lung disease, dementia, or diabetes to name a few.
POLL
Do you have a chronic illness?
Yes, and I'm not with anyone
Yes, but my partner does not
Yes, and so does my partner
No, and I'm not with anyone
WARNING
Sophie is not a doctor, therapist, or licensed medical or mental health professional. This video is a collection of research, data, and information; it is NOT medical advice. Please consult your provider to discuss your plan and ensure you are healthy enough for sexual activity.
RESOURCES
CITATIONS
Benavidez, G. A., Zahnd, W. E., Hung, P., & Eberth, J. M. (2024). Chronic disease prevalence in the US: Sociodemographic and geographic variations by ZIP code tabulation area. Preventing Chronic Disease, 21. https://doi.org/10.5888/pcd21.230267
Nusbaum, M. R., Hamilton, C., & Lenahan, P. (2003). Chronic illness and sexual functioning. American family physician, 67(2), 347–354.
Zink, I., & Palter, J. (2020). Sex-Interrupted: Igniting Intimacy While Living With Illness Or Disability.
Rocketto, L. (2021, May 24). 7 Tips from a Rheumatology Nurse to Help Maintain Sex and Intimacy When Living with a Chronic Illness. CreakyJoints. https://creakyjoints.org/lifestyle/maintain-sex-intimacy-with-chronic-illness
Department of Health & Human Services. (n.d.). Sex and chronic illness. Better Health Channel. https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/servicesandsupport/Sex-and-chronic-illness#bhc-content
Sexuality after chronic illness: What to expect. (n.d.). https://www.henryford.com/services/gynecology/sexual-health/sexuality-after-illness
Wow. Hopefully you'll forgive my rant about the term "preventable" as it applies to obesity and chronic illness, because I've just been made aware of the Health at Every Size (HAES) movement which delivers proof of exactly that. There is virtually zero evidence of weight being a determining factor of chronic illness. What are your thoughts?